Here's a woman to get acquainted with an interesting man, they begin to meet, talk, spend time, and then, quite unexpectedly, the relationship begins to deteriorate and the man disappears. And so it is repeated several times. If this story is familiar to you, let's look together for an answer to the question why this is so. The fact is that a man and a woman differ from each other, like summer and winter, like day and night. So, you need to communicate with them in different ways. The psychology of communicating with men is quite unique, and requires a scrupulous approach. That is why the psychology of successful communication with men is in the concept of "speaking in their language".
If we, representatives of the fair sex, manage to unravel at least some of the secrets of communicating with men, we can achieve great success in building an excellent relationship between a man and a woman. For this, it is worth studying the male "language of conversation" and the principles of behavior. In addition, men and women have different perceptions of information, too. Therefore, in most cases, a woman says to speak out, and a man enters into a dialogue only "on business."
The rules of communication with men
Let's look at some basic rules for communicating with men:
- men perceive everything in the key to solving problems. If a woman just wants to speak out, she's more suited to that girlfriend. The man immediately begins to give advice;
- when talking, men are able to discuss one topic at one time. Women run several topics in parallel (children, work, mother-in-law, shops). Therefore, discuss one person with your interlocutor;
- men in conversation look into the eyes of the interlocutor. This rule should also be observed;
- men are simple, so "subtext" in the conversation do not notice. If a woman wants something from a man, she should speak about it directly.
The art of communicating with men is also in accordance with the chosen image and the proposed topic, because the man must have the same picture. For example, if a woman is going to a business meeting, then for a successful transaction a good business suit, hairstyle and serious business manners will be a good plus. Then the man clearly understands what came to him and tuned to a serious conversation. Correct communication with a man leads to positive results in the set goal of communication, whether it is a business transaction or personal acquaintance with the hope for a long relationship.
Mistakes in communication with men
There are well-known moments that men can not stand in women. To avoid mistakes, consider the most common "female blunders":
- men are annoyed when the conversation begins with accusations. If this situation is repeated often, men prefer to step back;
- men can not stand female tears. It is better to talk about everything in a business manner - the result will be better;
- men hate to feel shame. A woman is doomed to loneliness, if she can not learn this rule by heart;
- do not climb to a man with questions when he is busy. Here it is worth noting that to interrogate him with the phrase: "what happened, why are you silent?" Also impossible.
These rules are very simple, so if you want to achieve the desired goals in dealing with men, they should not learn a tooth. The first communication with a man should be interesting, exciting and dynamic. So that was the desire to meet again. Speak more masculine topics, that is, those that interest him, and on pink ryushechkah and girlfriends-blondes at the first meeting to speak it is not necessary.
Now there is a lot of literature, which gives a lot of hints and tips, as well as reveals the secrets and features of communication with men. Especially I want to mention such authors as Allan and Barbara Pease, who published many excellent books on this topic. Almost all the answers about how different a man and a woman can be obtained from the book "Man and Woman, the Language of Relations" Allan and Barbara Pease.