Self-interest

Self-discovery in the eyes of people often looks like introspection, but there is a big difference between these two phenomena. Self-discovery is a destructive form of thinking about oneself, in which only shortcomings are considered and understood, and personality traits and strengths are ignored.

Self-interest in psychology

In order to understand that you are engaged in self-discovery, it is enough to pay attention to the following signs:

1. You are in a negative zone and concentrate on negative features.
2. You are constantly obsessed with not unpleasant episodes and failures.
3. You often regret what you did not do and what you did not do as you would like.
4. You are afraid of something or you are afraid.
5. You alternately accuse yourself, then you justify, then you are sorry.
6. Your thoughts are always in the past (you need to look for solutions and not causes).
7. Your analysis does not have a clear or positive goal.
8. Your thoughts are not aimed at correcting shortcomings - you are just painfully aware that they have you.

If you find that self-excision is exactly what you are used to doing, it is important to think about how to get rid of self-interest. It always hinders a happy, free life.

How to stop digging?

First of all, the formation of positive more concrete thinking will help you to overcome self-destruction. Let's consider, what for this purpose it is possible to make:

• live the present and the future, but not the past;
• get used to finding advantages in any situation;
• Do not criticize yourself in vain, but set goals that allow you to change the unattractive trait;
• formulate clear life priorities and plans;
• do constructive self-analysis, considering your positive sides, focusing on success and all that, what pleases you;
• develop your personality - learn new information, learn new skills;
• be sure to find time for self-expression and those activities that you are pleased and in which you are good;
• Do not get stuck in the stage of dreams - do the first, second and all subsequent steps on the way to your goal.

Self-seeking is sought by those who are not ready for change. Because you are simply excruciatingly experiencing your shortcomings or scolding yourself, nothing will happen. But if you are engaged in self-development, the situation will change in the shortest possible time, because your thoughts will henceforth be directed only to the future.