Take the first step, call a stranger, agree to an expensive contract, resign from a bored job ... These actions can be listed endlessly. But there is a type of people who never committed them in their lives. Their fault is their uncertainty in their abilities. Today, millions of people face this problem, which could have become more successful long ago! It is they who are dedicated to our article on how to overcome insecurity and feel the strength in oneself.
Insecurity in itself - causes
Recent independent studies have shown that almost 90% of the world's population somehow have some complexes and could achieve in life much more than they have now. But at the most crucial moment they were led by a belief in themselves and they retreated back.
Where does the self-doubt that interferes with a career, interact with the outside world and just enjoy life? Blame for all the mistakes of adults in the upbringing of children. We learn about ourselves from others and, first of all, from our parents. Hearing any cues in our address, we begin to form an idea of ourselves. Now imagine what opinion will the child, who is constantly criticized? "You are not capable of anything!", "Why do I need such punishment?", "You constantly throw toys, sluts!". The list can be continued indefinitely. Parents try to educate, but instead form in the fragile psyche of the baby images and barriers, which he can not overcome in adulthood. Without faith in oneself, one becomes shy and indecisive. Insecurity shows such signs as constant complexes, discontent with one's life, and in extreme cases a tendency to bad habits, depressions and even suicide. But once the parents had to just support the child at a time when he needed it. Fortunately, overcoming self-doubt is possible even in adulthood. And, depending on the complexity of the situation, it is not necessary to contact a psychologist. You can defeat your complexes on your own.
How to overcome self-doubt?
There are many ways how to deal with insecurity. And all of them are somehow connected with introspection and meeting their fears, as they say "face to face." To begin with, we need to solve the problem of how to overcome uncertainty in ourselves by finding a common language with ourselves:
- Remember how and under what circumstances you managed to cope with the excitement. Who helped you then? So, were those situations terrible and disturbing, as it seemed to you then?
- If you often worry when you are rushed and you are afraid of making mistakes, then try to slow down time and how to think about the task that you were given. When making important decisions, one should not hurry. Allow yourself to work and think at your usual pace, so as not to feel discontent with yourself again.
- Faced with an exciting situation, try to imagine what will happen if you do not cope with it. So it will be scary as it seems to you now? Sometimes every person has the right to make mistakes, so hesitation here is useless.
- Look around and think, and for whom do you want to become confident and successful? Do you try for an outsider, for assessing others or for yourself? If you like yourself and in the way you are now, do not you lose time for free for the sake of others?
- Find in your environment a person who believes in you and will always support you. Address him in the most difficult life situations. Perhaps it will be the source of inspiration and motivation that you so lack.
In addition to spiritual work on yourself the question of how to get rid of uncertainty can be solved in practice. To do this, try to go outside and do what other times you would not have made up your mind. For example:
- go to any store and ask the sellers to show one of the goods and tell about it. After you all showed goodbye and leave without taking anything;
- in another store or stall ask you to exchange money for you;
- ask the people passing by how long it is, how to get to such a store, ask them to exchange money or buy a cigarette;
- go to the cafe and ask them to use their phone. Do not do orders, but continue to insist on your request despite the indignation of cafe workers;
- Ask the person sitting on the bus to give you a seat. Reasons to call it is not necessary. Simply voice the request.
You can come up with similar situations yourself. Using the moments that came across to you in life and most vividly demonstrated your indecisiveness. Remember that the best way to get rid of fears is to do what you are afraid of. Do this and the question of how to cope with the uncertainty will be decided for you.