Which of us has no problems! But to make them fewer, psychologists say that a person needs to love himself: special psychological techniques have been created for training.
What is the essence of psychotechnics?
As a rule, those who have not received enough love in their childhood do not like themselves. They are ready to self-sacrifice, to renounce the benefits and comfort for the sake of children (parents, husband, etc.). At the same time, they do not see anything special in themselves, they do not consider that they are worthy of attention and care, while those around them, meanwhile, use the best qualities of such people in an unscrupulous way. So, it's time to figure out what it means to love yourself, and take a step towards yourself.
- First, consider yourself in the mirror (do this when you are at home alone) and understand that you are what you are, and this is your charm, because another such is no more. Smile to yourself, even if the first time the smile will be tortured and even a little pathetic. Be sure: in a week you will be happy to smile at your reflection in the mirror.
- And now call yourself a tender name, praise yourself for something (at least for borscht, which only you get so delicious).
- To understand how to love yourself, use the following tips: write on the sheet in the column all your best personal and just human qualities (responsiveness, compassion, compassion, the ability to embroider, etc.). It's good, if you collect them five dozen. And now on the other - what you do not like about yourself (also 50). Read, and now burn this leaf and forget about it, but the leaflet, where your best qualities are written, reread every day.
- You still want to understand how to accept and love yourself - go to the hairdresser, make a new hairstyle, manicure, wander around the shops, buy at least one new thing. And also - go to the jewelry store and try on a pretty ring. You do not need to buy, but even fitting will improve your mood . And now go home and look again in the mirror: is not the woman who is reflected in him good? Is not she worthy of love and attention? That's it. Therefore, first you yourself will love yourself, get yourself respected, and there, you see, and the others will understand that you are worthy of all the best in this life.