It is known that up to 70% of all information about one's interlocutor is received, strangely enough, not from his words, but based on non-verbal communication (gestures, facial expressions, etc.). The ability to read body language is one of the main successes in the art of communication. But it is important to remember that no gesture makes sense to analyze separately from others. Because it is their complex that makes up a single correct interpretation.
Gestures - non-verbal ways of communication
Before proceeding to read the gestures of your interlocutor, remember that always take into account the situation, the circumstances. After all, for example, it's silly to conclude that a person does not want to communicate, if he crosses his arms and legs while sitting at a stop, raised his shoulders simply because it's very cold outside.
Gestures can be a confirmation of what has been said, and do not correspond to that. If this relationship is present, then they only strengthen what has been said, and in the case where there is no one - it is worth paying attention to the gestures, because in them you will find a lot of unspoken by your interlocutor.
Sign language as a non-verbal means of communication is associated with the social position and age of the individual. So, the speed of movement decreases, the gesture decreases in the case of few emotional, highly educated people or those who, due to a certain disease, experience difficulties during movements.
Nonverbal communication: the main types of sign language
- Gesticulation with hands. The authority of the interlocutor shows, if, embracing your hand, covers it with your own or in the case of extending your hand palm up. Aggressive personalities prefer a strong handshake. Take a closer look, if your partner leaves his thumbs on the surface while laying his hands in his pockets, this indicates his desire to outperform you.
- Defense and attack. The symbol of protection is the back of the chair, when a person prefers to sit on top of him. Overcome this barrier is possible if you conduct a conversation, looking at the interlocutor from above, or give him a chair with armrests. Defensive position - the head is tilted down. Change the situation, motivate the partner to turn it sideways (for example, causing curiosity to something).
- Proprietary gestures. They are a touch to a particular object, even though it is someone else's.
- Interest. This gesture is clearly expressed in the sidelong glance, which is accompanied by a smile. In order to influence the interlocutor's view, point it at a certain object, after which you should transfer the latter to the level of your eyes.