It's not a secret for anyone that any relationship is built on trust. But not everything in life meets our expectations, and often even the closest people by their actions destroy trusting relationships. And no matter who and why did not live up to expectations, it is always difficult to reconcile with treachery, and it seems even impossible to restore former relations.
How to restore trust in a relationship? What if the lack of trust and suspicious attitude threatens to destroy family happiness? How to earn trust? Sooner or later, in the life of each person, these questions arise, and in order to find the answer, we need to understand what the essence of trusting relations is and how trust arises.
So, relations are built on trust, but in order for the relationship to have confidence in a partner, it is necessary to observe the following simple rules:
1. Develop a sense of reliability
If a person is not sure of their reliability, then others will not have any confidence in him. It is not necessary to take unrealistic obligations or give empty promises. If a person is confident in his words and knows that he has made a promise, he will do his best to fulfill it, then this confidence will be felt by others.
2. Avoid even a slight lie
Confidence in the reliability of a person is formed as a result of his actions, confirming his honest intentions. But if a person does not justify trust in even minor matters, then in more serious matters he also does not inspire confidence.
3. Do not seek to prove your reliability with words
At some point, others may believe the words, but this illusion of trust will disappear very quickly. Only actions can prove or deny the reliability of a person.
4. Lack of trust and suspicious relationships always have reasons that need to be identified
Very often people project negative experience of the past to the present. For example, if in the past one of the partners was treason, then in subsequent relationships he will be jealous and suspect his half. And instead of accusing each other of mistrust, it is worthwhile to sincerely talk, to find out what exactly causes associations with the past situation and together to find a way how to restore trust in relations.
5. It is not necessary to demand confidential attitude to yourself and groundlessly trust in others
All people have their own life principles, and everyone has their own views on betrayal and betrayal. Therefore, justified trust can arise to people with similar life principles and views, or to those who have repeatedly justified their reliability. While the partner does not make sure that half is sharing his views and beliefs, he will have doubts.6. Do not project your views on the actions of a partner
If the partner made a mistake, do not consider his action in terms of their views. First, you need to listen to a partner and find the reasons for what happened. Only a sincere conversation will help to understand the motives of each other's actions and avoid such actions in the future.
7. Communication should be sincere and aimed at improving the situation
If the partners are confident that they can share their experiences with each other, then in such relations the confidence will grow stronger every day. But if, after sharing their problems, the partner hears criticism and accusations, then next time he will try to solve all the problems on his own. And then, in time, trust can disappear.
These simple recommendations will help to feel love in love with each other, but how to restore trust in a relationship if one of the partners has committed treason? In the absence of trust, a suspicious attitude can manifest itself even in the most insignificant trifles, which will poison the life together day by day. Psychologists believe that first aid in such situations is sincere communication. But that the conversation does not turn into a quarrel and mutual accusations, everyone must prepare for a conversation. The perpetrator should analyze what caused his actions, and what conclusions he made from the current situation. Deceived half also should reflect on the causes of what happened, as well as consider what actions partner will return confidence in the relationship.
All relationships are so individual that only with the help of honest and sincere conversation partners can find a way how to restore trust in relationships. This may not be easy. But with the mutual desire to keep the relationship working in this direction every day, respecting the feelings and desires of each other, the halves will be able to overcome a critical moment, and in time to remember what happened only as a useful lesson that taught them to love and appreciate each other even more.