What is criticism?

Negative criticism has a direct impact on the relationship of people and life in general. Although for many it is an excellent incentive to develop further and reach new heights.

What is criticism?

By this word they understand the possibility of expressing their negative opinion on a certain action or situation. Initially, criticism bears in itself a good intention - a desire to change the situation for the better. Why, in the end, often there are serious conflicts and grievances? This is due to the discrepancy of the conscious goal - the desire to do something better, and the subconscious - the real aspiration. In general, there are several subconscious goals that lead to negative consequences of criticism:

• the desire to humiliate or hurt;
• the desire to protect oneself from the demands of others;
• desire to improve self-esteem and establish itself.

Types of criticism

In general, there are 2 types of criticism:

1. Constructive criticism - is aimed at improving a certain action and situation. If you use this option, the result will be positive, everyone will make the right conclusions and improve their work or behavior. Correct criticism implies the use of feedback, that is, you get a truthful answer to the question posed. For example, you can ask your colleagues or the boss about what you need to do to improve your work. As a result, you will receive real comments and wishes, this is constructive criticism.
2. Destructive or unreasonable criticism . In this case, a person hears not an evaluation or response to a particular action, but a kind of summing up, for example, "You can never do anything good", etc. Such criticism negatively affects self-esteem and behavior. Most often unreasonable criticism is used by parents, communicating with children.

Before giving a specific comment action or situation, you need to ask yourself a mental question: "What do you want to achieve in the end?". Maybe the goal is simply to offend a person or you still want to improve the situation. Consider that any choice you make will have an impact on the situation and life in general.

When choosing constructive criticism, use 3 important components:

1. Tell the truth and express everything that does not suit you.
2. Do everything possible to ensure that the relationship with the person did not deteriorate, and he calmly listened to the comments.
3. To achieve the desired result, that is, to correct the situation