Saying the first words of love, you could not think how hard it would be to part. Yes, there, who plans a break at the dawn of relations. And here comes the moment when you realize that, despite the love (if it is still left), it is easier for you and better to continue your life separately. How to choose the right words to leave the person most painlessly - the topic of today's article.
With what to begin parting? First of all, with a solid solution. If it's hard for you to decide on a confident point, make a list where one column will show the pluses, and in the other - the minuses of your relationship. It is important that the qualities are equivalent. Try to soberly assess the situation, because with some shortcomings we are ready to put up, and something is unacceptable for us. And if you can not formulate the reasons, just feel with your heart, then this is the surest sign that your relationship has become obsolete.
How to make people break up friends. Or at least they kept warm memories of each other. The secret is in respect. Respect yourself and your decision, respect the feelings of another person and his right to know the cause of your break.
Rules of parting
- do not start a conversation with the charges. If there is an opportunity to do without them, do not blame it. The fault for an unfulfilled relationship is always on both. If a person does not live up to your expectations, perhaps it was because you originally idealized him;
- speak with the person, if possible, even, but in a warm tone. He should not give hope, but also hurt with coldness, too;
- name the main reason for your break. Even if you are not going to tell him the truth (for any reasons), find reasons that will be strong enough. The fact that you do not want to be together - by itself has the right to be the end of a relationship. The main thing is to express it so that the point does not turn into a ellipsis;
- do not forget to thank the person for all the good moments that were between you. One or two will be enough, otherwise parting can end with the notorious "Why do I sell my cow". You will surely be overwhelmed by a wave of memories, and your beloved from these excursions to the past will not be better;
- offer to remain friends (if you believe in friendship after the relationship), but do not rush to establish contacts in a new format. First time is better to avoid communication.
No matter how you want to part with your loved one painlessly, unpleasant feelings can hardly be avoided. Most likely, you will be tormented by fits of regret, memories, the fear of being as good as it was with this person, is unlikely to be with someone else. Therefore it is important to occupy yourself, to distract from sad thoughts.
- hide all things that remind you of the former. How would you not like co-photography or cute trinkets (especially those that were donated in the candy-bouquet period), gather strength and ... out of sight;
- Do not discuss the former with your girlfriends and try not to resort to alcohol parties. All this is fraught with all the same bouts
nostalgia and thirst to feel loved; - find an absolutely new hobby for yourself. Ideal are foreign language courses or dances. And if possible, go on a journey where the "risk" is great to make new acquaintances. Even if you are not ready to plunge into a new romantic relationship, do not refuse to communicate with other people. It is important to feel that you can be well in another company.
Try to accept the situation, do not blame yourself or him. Mentally thank the person for the fact that you were well together and go further ...