Rules for constructive criticism

Why do not we like criticism directed towards us? Is it because we often project it onto ourselves, as a person. Some people do not like your poems? It's probably because he does not really respect you. The boss criticized your ideas? So, he does not believe in your abilities ... Do you recognize the direction of thought?

We are used to the fact that criticism has become almost synonymous with "condemnation". Meanwhile, the etymology of the word is a little different, "criticism" in the translation from Greek, is "the art of disassembling." To disassemble something does not mean to blame. Those. the main rule of effective criticism - it should be constructive, suggest ways to improve the situation. Otherwise, criticism turns into condemnation. And you can easily be called a disgruntled critic if you do not have at least basic rules of constructive criticism. What are they?

1. Rule one: criticize only what is possible (in your opinion) to change for the better. Otherwise, be ready for insults and quarrels, because you do not criticize, you blame.

2. The second rule is important for understanding the perception of criticism. Try to abstract, turn off emotions about a person, and focus only on what you are going to criticize. Think: how to make it so that a person does not project a negative attitude toward an act upon himself, as a person. AND…

3. ... start with the merits. Here it is already possible to spread to the merits of the interlocutor, and not the object of criticism, unless, of course, you have nothing to praise. Enumerating the merits and points of intersection of your opinions helps a person to tune in to the right wave and makes it more receptive.

4. If you want a person to listen to your opinion, then:

5. Keep the "even" tone of the conversation. Do not raise your voice, do not start arguing, it will cause aggression and bring down any "your" comments.

6. Summarize the results. Criticism should be clear and understandable, and ways of improving the situation should seem as simple as possible.

Implementation of constructive criticism is impossible without observing these rules, so always put yourself in the place of someone you criticize. This allows you to gather your thoughts, and the critic - to cope with emotions. But in doing so, your arguments should not be walking around so, say your opinion directly, and let it sound like a sincere desire to help, not condemnation. Perhaps this will seem difficult, but when you come to a common consensus with the other person, you will understand that the effort was worth the time.