Alcoholism is a disease that turns the life of a patient and his loved ones into a nightmare. For this situation, even there is a special term - codependence. What to do to a woman, if her husband is an alcoholic, will advise the advice of a psychologist.
Tips of a psychologist how to live with a husband an alcoholic
If a woman, despite the addiction, continues to love her husband, she continues to live with him no matter what. In this case, the wife should try to help her husband overcome the ailment.
Examples of healing alcoholism are not uncommon, someone is helped by sincere belief, another is a psychologist, the third is medications and various "coding". The method in any case should be selected individually. However, it should be noted that psychological assistance is necessary for the woman herself, since life in eternal fear and stress exhausts both physically and morally.
But while the husband drinks, the woman should observe certain rules:
- you can not show your weakness and helplessness - such a woman's behavior will push the man to even greater libations, and if the husband knows that the wife will live well without him, he will try to cope with the problem;
- wife should not forget that she is a woman - a man should always remember that he loves his wife, then the desire to defeat the disease will be stronger for him;
- his wife needs more time to give her husband - common family interests and interests can create a miracle and turn a man away from alcohol.
What you can not do to the wife of a drinking husband:
- scandal, make hysterics, "saw" the spouse;
- ignore it or threaten to divorce;
- launch yourself;
- cringe and justify alcoholism;
- to scold the husband - it's not he who is bad, but his habit;
- to blame friends and relatives for alcoholism - a person makes his own choice.
To help her husband, it is necessary to identify the causes of alcoholism. This can be a genetic predisposition, a strong stress associated with death, dismissal, treason. The wife needs to try to understand what exactly gives her husband alcohol - liberates, lets forget problems, attracts attention to him.
But if nothing helps, a man drinks and "dissolves his hands," a woman can have only one problem: how to get away from her husband - an alcoholic and a tyrant - without loss, preserving physical and mental health. And if such a decision is made, it must be implemented without delay and regret, ensuring safety for themselves and children.