The question, to which it is very difficult to give a clear answer, is tortured by more than one generation. What is really more terrible indifference or hatred? Of course, both hurts a person's feelings, but, as you know, hatred only beats the feelings and self-esteem of a person, while indifference kills, does it mean that indifference is more terrible?
So, what is indifference? Indifference is a reluctance to participate both in changes in one's own life and in changes in public life. People who are indifferent do not have experiences about other people, they are inactive and constantly in a state of apathy.
There are many manifestations of indifference, while hatred is manifested exclusively by a strong feeling that prevents not only the object that causes it but also the one who radiates it.
Causes of indifference
The problem of indifference lies in the person himself, in his insults and his desire to protect himself from the pain inflicted. As a rule, a person begins to experience indifference to life as a kind of protection, thus, he tries to protect himself from stress and negative emotions.
The desire to protect from the evil world, which repeatedly rejected and offended his feelings, leads to the fact that a person unconsciously begins to portray indifference. But this is fraught with consequences. Often, with time, indifference becomes an internal state of the individual, and it manifests itself not only in indifference to social life, but also in indifference to oneself.
The reasons for indifference to yourself may be alcoholism, drug addiction, mental illness, medications or mental retardation. Short-term forms of indifference are easily cured, since they mostly arise because of strong stress or lack of caress and love.
Indifference of the husband
A question that especially worries women, what is the reason for indifference in the relationship? And why does the indifference of a man to a once-beloved woman arise?
The first thing to remember in this situation is that the indifference of a man does not arise out of nowhere. As a rule, it appears with mutual reproaches and resentments, with an unstable sex life, and even at all its absence. A man will never leave his beloved woman, who arranges him in bed. Perhaps the reason for the indifference of her husband was the novel on the side. In any case, if one of the spouses began to feel indifference to another, it is necessary not to concentrate only on yourself, but talk with your partner. Perhaps, the reason for indifference was some kind of domestic conflict, which can easily be settled by talking about it. However, if your other half does not want to listen to anything, let alone change in your relationship, then perhaps it's time to leave.
The well-known statement of A.P. Chekhov on this account says: "Indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death" and it is not so easy to fight it, but hatred is just an emotion that by and large is meaningless and inconstant.
If one of your loved ones is faced with the problem of indifference, do not stand aside. Ask yourself the question: "How to deal with indifference?". Help him solve this internal problem, explain that human life is impossible without caress, caring, understanding and love, because in their presence to remain indifferent is simply impossible.